“Don’t let today’s disappointments cast a shadow on tomorrow’s dreams.” ~Unknown
We are constantly disappointed in life, be it work or personal.Its natural as we are human with emotions.We have our own thresholds of how much can we deal with disappointments.The main cause of disappointments is unrealistic expectations.I think i already wrote about the zero expectation theory ,which some might have already read.But, unless we are dead or zombies there is no such thing like zero expectation.(oh yeah, i like contradicting myself)
I just observed a friends feed on facebook, a latest addition of a baby boy with cute photos.There were lot of comments etc..where on some she asked back about how few of her friends were.In one case a friend revealed as a doctor practicing in some small town in India, has her own hospital.Now my friends comments as "wow" and congratulated back .The doctor then spoils it by being tired and fed up and how their school days were best.Now, my friend cleverly closed it by saying the doctor needs a break.Now, my friend who posted lives a dream life of being in the US with a 2 kid family and working as well.In social media ,thats the dream life.Maybe the doctor envied and lashed out with her own problems.But, the crux here was comparison.Her being a doctor with all her education and in a small town, added to that the stress of actual doctors work, life is sure going to be hectic.
Personally, i would not say comparing is bad, but people should know their own reality.You can't compete with rich guys who are rich by the virtue of ancestry .Rather they focus on getting there by hardwork.I see people complaining about their jobs, well always,(we all do sometimes).Why not change it?
There is this other theory of reaching personal excellence due to disappointments.
“One’s best success comes after their greatest disappointments.” – Henry Ward Beecher
But, disappointments cause heart burn and heart breaks, at that time nobody thinks of greater good or bigger learning.It all works only later when we reflect back and try to find silver linings in our disappointments.But, life goes on.Rather than becoming bitter with failure or heart break we should focus on getting over.There is no magic solution to it, we all have to find it ourselves.Personally i find getting over broken trust most difficult.Its one of the biggest hurdles in life dealing with liars who break your trust.But, it life it happens, we will figure out eventually.
I just observed a friends feed on facebook, a latest addition of a baby boy with cute photos.There were lot of comments etc..where on some she asked back about how few of her friends were.In one case a friend revealed as a doctor practicing in some small town in India, has her own hospital.Now my friends comments as "wow" and congratulated back .The doctor then spoils it by being tired and fed up and how their school days were best.Now, my friend cleverly closed it by saying the doctor needs a break.Now, my friend who posted lives a dream life of being in the US with a 2 kid family and working as well.In social media ,thats the dream life.Maybe the doctor envied and lashed out with her own problems.But, the crux here was comparison.Her being a doctor with all her education and in a small town, added to that the stress of actual doctors work, life is sure going to be hectic.
Personally, i would not say comparing is bad, but people should know their own reality.You can't compete with rich guys who are rich by the virtue of ancestry .Rather they focus on getting there by hardwork.I see people complaining about their jobs, well always,(we all do sometimes).Why not change it?
There is this other theory of reaching personal excellence due to disappointments.
“One’s best success comes after their greatest disappointments.” – Henry Ward Beecher
But, disappointments cause heart burn and heart breaks, at that time nobody thinks of greater good or bigger learning.It all works only later when we reflect back and try to find silver linings in our disappointments.But, life goes on.Rather than becoming bitter with failure or heart break we should focus on getting over.There is no magic solution to it, we all have to find it ourselves.Personally i find getting over broken trust most difficult.Its one of the biggest hurdles in life dealing with liars who break your trust.But, it life it happens, we will figure out eventually.
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