The BS i thought was true

      Eh, yes you read it right.I title has a bad word, i was just reflecting on my previous post and the no expectation theory stood out.We think we are so right sometimes that we actually emphatically write about it.Now, due to changed circumstances and obviously wisdom which comes with age i realized that some of it needs reevaluation.I think no expectation is good, wasn't it the base of Geeta and lord Krishna convinced Arjuna to fight the war.Well, its still true, but if we expect nothing, we really get nothing in life.I think we need to expect many things, else it becomes a trend and you end being a total doormat.
     I just hate driving for some reason i.e a car , and so i never really was fascinated by cars or models of car.I always had cabs or Auto at my disposal.And i was happy in it.It was never a status symbol for me and neither did my family think anything of it.Now, after living in Delhi for sometime, i realize everyone has a car mostly and its best to have one if we want to get anywhere.I now think relearning driving is going make me totally independent, so i am enrolling to driving and hoping that my hatred for driving turns to love for it.So, this is an small example which shows that sometimes we need to unbend from our dislike and do things for greater good of life.
   After seeing people with a mindset of show off and materialistic ,here relationships are friendships are based on the make of car or all the things BS.Living here has made me a bit ambitious and made me think no expectation is being too saintly.And none of us really are, so why be hypocrite ,and we all know we all have expectations. It could be from our spouse, or  family or extended family.But, once they all don't meet those, we become complacent in chalta hai attitude.And you get taken for a ride.Having a voice is good, but it doesn't mean being argumentative.Logic i think solves most problems in life.But, have minimal expectations as its good to have some ambition in life.On that note i sign off.
 
  

The inception of perception

 We all have our own sweet little ways of presuming things and the inception of pre-conceived notions come in play.In cases where there is pretense, its doubly difficult to understand a person/situation.We create illusions about people and how they should be.We just then continue to live in a bubble of self awareness.One day the bubble bursts and  we are left with nothing apart from regret.
  Most of the too good to be true situations are unreal.We have to evaluate things based on how they appear and be clear headed.People pretend to be what they are not, someday it comes out and then the illusions are shattered.There is probably no sound when that happens.But definitely lot of heart break and ache is involved there.We can get over the illusions, that is what they were really, make believe world.But, the cracks will be there, we just have to then worry to keep the cracks together.These days we have perceptions about everything and inevitably this is an inception to a heart break!

Facebook Gyan

     

The news feed on facebook these days changes a per my mood, strangely some pages i liked throw up funny messages!

Dealing with the meh moments

“Don’t let today’s disappointments cast a shadow on tomorrow’s dreams.” ~Unknown

We are constantly disappointed in life, be it work or personal.Its natural as we are human with emotions.We have our own thresholds of how much can we deal with disappointments.The main cause of disappointments is unrealistic expectations.I think i already wrote about the zero expectation theory ,which some might have already read.But, unless we are dead or zombies there is no such thing like zero expectation.(oh yeah, i like contradicting myself)
   I just observed a friends feed on facebook, a latest addition of a baby boy with cute photos.There were lot of comments etc..where on some she asked back about how few of her friends were.In one case a friend revealed as a doctor practicing in some small town in India, has her own hospital.Now my friends comments as "wow" and congratulated back .The doctor then spoils it by being tired and fed up and how their school days were best.Now, my friend cleverly closed it by saying the doctor needs a break.Now, my friend who posted lives a dream life of being in the US with a 2 kid family and working as well.In social media ,thats the dream life.Maybe the doctor envied and lashed out with her own problems.But, the crux here was comparison.Her being a doctor with all her education and in a small town, added to that the stress of actual doctors work, life is sure going to be hectic.
   Personally, i would not say comparing is bad, but people should know their own reality.You can't compete with rich guys who are rich by the virtue of ancestry .Rather they focus on getting there by hardwork.I see people complaining about their jobs, well always,(we all do sometimes).Why not change it?
   There is this other theory of reaching personal excellence due to disappointments.
“One’s best success comes after their greatest disappointments.” – Henry Ward Beecher
     But, disappointments cause heart burn and heart breaks, at that time nobody thinks of greater good or bigger learning.It all works only later when we reflect back and try to find silver linings in our disappointments.But, life goes on.Rather than becoming bitter with failure or heart break we should focus on getting over.There is no magic solution to it, we all have to find it ourselves.Personally i find getting over broken trust most difficult.Its one of the biggest hurdles in life dealing with liars who break your trust.But, it life it happens, we will figure out eventually.