Opposite or mirror image?

       We often come across people who are radically different than us.We see them and get this amazing feeling of thank god, i am not like that.But, in our mind we wonder if we were to be like that then where will i be? Here i meant different in beliefs and thinking and not to be related to things like money, education, houses etc..Its the belief about what matters in life? I often meet / come to know about people who have a belief system and values very very away from mine.
      For example i heard of a family of lawyers who values money over anything and is probably corrupt or too good lawyers , either ways very rich probably.They married their daughters based on the money the groom had or his big car/house/status.Basically the value system is money the person has , the more you have the more deserving you are of their daughter.Trust me the daughters were all below borderline good looking in the Indian context to set the record(sound's racist, but lets be typical Indian's).But, they had this inherent belief that money gets all good things in life.In their case a even bigger status.Since, all this is hearsay, some of it can be biased .  Their daughter did not consider a good man who loved her as he was broke but strung him along for years.But he cared about her a lot, based of few things i saw/heard.Then he moved on got himself engaged and the girl suddenly wants to marry him.Its the classic case of i don't want you and nobody else can have you. Obviously it makes you wonder what truly matters, i am no saint to tell money doesn't matter, it does help in leading a carefree life.But, not to the extent of forming relationships based on that. Obviously, the guy hung around a long time before moving on from her, makes you wonder is love truly blind to people's faults? or is that the definition of true love, where nothing matter except acceptance in any circumstance.,
     This germinated an idea of my novel.A case where you see blind love or maybe a hung over love maybe?  How two people with very different belief systems ended up loving same person.How you think that people like good values , but in a real context do they really matter? So, this means i am trying to talk about personalities who are in opposite spectrum's in their belief system.Maybe it depends on the upbringing ,your current situation etc...But, one does wonder about the high values we talk about are really helpful or they are just preaching of a saint and unrelated in real life.I am still trying to move forward on my novel, but somehow seem to stuck with writers block on chapter one itself.

Something something life

         I was just hit by inspiration last week , to start my novel and like all things exciting, i started it with great excitement and it proceeded well for a few pages and then as usual tapered to slowdown.I guess the new city with less time to waste has made me more in sync with inner me.You get more time to think when you have nothing to do .Its so hot in Delhi that I end up staying in , or just end up in the mall, malls in NCR are kinda weird with crowd like they have come to a mela.
        I also think i jinxed my work life balance by blogging nicely about it.Suddenly i was hit by a wave of work and i was struggling to meet the work life balance.Now i have outsourced cooking as i think i don't have the time, also i donot want to try to do it all.I like my space and i need time for myself.I think women tend to try to become superwomen and this burn themselves out.I think i work equally or harder than my male counterparts.So, i think i deserve the luxury they do , where they have wives pampering them.In my case i am pampering myself by outsourcing cooking etc..I guess women need to remember to make time for themselves as they tend to emulate some olden days relic of history where women just existed to be subservient .
      I just completed a much needed office report at 12am! And i am unable to sleep now, i hate report work, but comes with territory.I thought of adding a few pages to my novel, but ending up writing meaningless stuff on the blog.

Divine justice

      I was recently at my In laws place and had long gossip session with SIL.We were discussing some deep stuff and sometimes random stuff.One thing which stuck to my mind was our mutual agreement on divine justice.I usually don't keep grudges or believe in long battles of revenge as i usually believe in divine justice.It means what goes around ,comes around.And i was pleasantly surprised that SIL believed in it, as i feel such people are easy to gel with.
   It actually quite peaceful to have such a belief.It makes easy to move on from tough situations where you feel like bollywood wala "Badla" feeling.We just let it go and say "he/she will have to meet the maker one day".Personally i rarely keep a grudge, as its quite draining and waste of time.Just let it go and someday somewhere a liar will be caught, a murderer will be killed, you get my gist.
    I don't understand the honor killings, people constantly fighting and outbeating each other for no reason.It all just makes no sense.We all know how much law supports criminals.Cases where we all know who is to blame end up closed from lack of evidence.I always hated lawyers as they are mostly corrupt.I just hope the families who don't get justice believe in "divine justice" as they go through a lot of grief and tragedy. Atleast the concept of divine justice in itself is very calming to mind.But, not many really believe in it.To be clear this concept has nothing to do with rebirth and all that crap, just that in the same life someday somewhere the person will get what he deserves.So, better keep doing good in life :)