All the women/girl however strong and independent, they have atleast pondered, once in a while what is it to be man.And just wished that they were sometimes , out of sheer frustration "a man".Now all those feminist out there , i am one of you.But sometimes it hard to keep up the front.Trying to recount some of those for fun.
When you realize that menstruation is something which will come every month, and all the boys in your class will not get it.When you suddenly have curfews to return home as you are adult now.You just wish you were a boy.
Then when you are over the moon due to getting a engineering seat , someone telling anyways you will end up leaving your job and cooking (Thanks to that Aunty, i never ever considered to marry a NRI !#careermatters) .Then there are instances when your Career choices are based on community advices (:D) .
I had a friend who dreaded pay raise as she would become less sought after by supposed groom. I recall coaching her on this bullshit mentality. Would you imagine being unhappy on getting a raise? Would a man think like this? No wonder women in world over get paid less than their male counterpart.
I myself was quite apprehensive of a 6 month maternity break. I wondered if i will lose in touch with my skills. However, this early realization led me to read and think. I binge watched TV and documentaries when i could find time. I read on things irrelevant things, basically let it go.Yes, the break impacts things, but i accepted it and moved on. It might have impacted the promotion i hankered after last year, but i have moved on from it and a realization that i really dint want that .I would sealed my fate in management forever :) . Would a man thought anything about career or baby? They probably just look at it as 5 days break! <>
And the men bonding in the smoke breaks are classic, I sometimes in my early career used to just pull my hair out of sheer frustration. A teammate and manager discussed something with smoke and assumed we all knew what they discussed. Well, let me tell you, these breaks did help that colleague in the long run. But, yeah karma is a bitch, hardwork matters in the end. I would believe this till my last breath. I do have my super pessimistic days where i feel universe is out to get you :).
I lived in NCR , i never really felt unsafe in real sense travelling alone etc..But, i my mind i was always cautious with cabbies, or just cautious. Do men have this subconscious need to be extra safe? We hesitate to travel alone, well times are changing . I have interacted with super strong women who travel alone to amazing places.
A relative had a 2nd girl .Imagine how they were congratulated, ah well, its in destiny another girl.But , the family was celebrating , i was happy to see.I just hate this suppressed congratulations. I had all girl names listed when i was expecting , so we scrambled to find a boy's name when he was born .Hope the boy doesnt read and feel depressed :P
All i mean is , on our bad days we hanker to be a man. But, we are all happy to be what we are. Men need to give us space, respect. Times have changed, world is a better place i am happy to say.
When you realize that menstruation is something which will come every month, and all the boys in your class will not get it.When you suddenly have curfews to return home as you are adult now.You just wish you were a boy.
Then when you are over the moon due to getting a engineering seat , someone telling anyways you will end up leaving your job and cooking (Thanks to that Aunty, i never ever considered to marry a NRI !#careermatters) .Then there are instances when your Career choices are based on community advices (:D) .
I had a friend who dreaded pay raise as she would become less sought after by supposed groom. I recall coaching her on this bullshit mentality. Would you imagine being unhappy on getting a raise? Would a man think like this? No wonder women in world over get paid less than their male counterpart.
I myself was quite apprehensive of a 6 month maternity break. I wondered if i will lose in touch with my skills. However, this early realization led me to read and think. I binge watched TV and documentaries when i could find time. I read on things irrelevant things, basically let it go.Yes, the break impacts things, but i accepted it and moved on. It might have impacted the promotion i hankered after last year, but i have moved on from it and a realization that i really dint want that .I would sealed my fate in management forever :) . Would a man thought anything about career or baby? They probably just look at it as 5 days break! <
And the men bonding in the smoke breaks are classic, I sometimes in my early career used to just pull my hair out of sheer frustration. A teammate and manager discussed something with smoke and assumed we all knew what they discussed. Well, let me tell you, these breaks did help that colleague in the long run. But, yeah karma is a bitch, hardwork matters in the end. I would believe this till my last breath. I do have my super pessimistic days where i feel universe is out to get you :).
I lived in NCR , i never really felt unsafe in real sense travelling alone etc..But, i my mind i was always cautious with cabbies, or just cautious. Do men have this subconscious need to be extra safe? We hesitate to travel alone, well times are changing . I have interacted with super strong women who travel alone to amazing places.
A relative had a 2nd girl .Imagine how they were congratulated, ah well, its in destiny another girl.But , the family was celebrating , i was happy to see.I just hate this suppressed congratulations. I had all girl names listed when i was expecting , so we scrambled to find a boy's name when he was born .Hope the boy doesnt read and feel depressed :P
All i mean is , on our bad days we hanker to be a man. But, we are all happy to be what we are. Men need to give us space, respect. Times have changed, world is a better place i am happy to say.
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